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Small Acts of Kindness

September 29, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

Just some thoughts:
 
Small acts of kindness are often done quietly.
 
Recently my cell phone rang and as I picked it up I was asked, “Larry, what’s the name of your grandchild that is so fond of Japan?” “Oh, that’s Luke,” I replied.
 
The Japanese company Nissan has its American headquarters just a couple miles from our house. A friend of ours was calling for his wife who has a corporate position with Nissan and often travels to Japan. “My wife just called, she’s in Japan right now and she asked that I get the name of your grandson. She wants to have someone there in the corporate office print his name in English and then print it in Japanese.”
 
Sometime back over a quick restaurant meal with these two friends, our grandson’s interest in Japan had just very quickly been mentioned and shared with the two of them. It was just a small bit of information, said in passing,  about our grandson’s interest and fascination with Japan and the Japanese culture. You could have blown me away with the thought of this small bit of information being remembered, and more so, her kindness and remembrance of our grandchild’s interest.
When I was about ten years old I ordered my first baseball glove. A Nellie Fox model. It was placed with a mail order catalog company, Sears and Roebuck. Now that dates me for sure. Their mail order department was located in Chicago. The order was to be sent from Chicago to their store in a town about ten miles from where we lived. That store made weekly deliveries to the local grocery store where my mother worked in the small community where we lived in Indiana.
 
Each day would find me going to the grocery store asking, “Has my ball glove come in yet?” You can imagine the patience of a ten year old Larry Adamson. It seemed to go on forever with no delivery. One day I was just checking again and was told, “Well, the glove has been shipped and it is at the store in town. It will be delivered here in three or four days.” What? Three or four more days? Oh man, come on.”
 
Standing near the counter over hearing what I had just been told was “Old Man, Mr. Ray.” That was what he was called in this community. His first name was Ray and I guess he was old. To a ten year old most everybody is old. Ray walked to the counter where my mother had just delivered the “glad tidings” that it was going to take another three or four days before the glove is delivered. He called my mother by name and said, “How about if I carry Larry into town to the store where the ball glove is and he can get it today?” My mother thanked him for his kind thought but said, “Oh, he can wait a few more days.” Ray then repeated his request with a bit more urgency and my mother finally consented.
 
Later that afternoon found this ten year old boy playing second base at the local ball field with a new Nellie Fox model glove.
 
On one of my recent trips back home, by chance, my path crossed with one of “Old Man Ray’s” great-grandchildren. I was in a gas station combination restaurant when I heard the last name of Mr. Ray’s. I was reminded of his kindness from my boyhood days. I remembered that day and the act of kindness an “old man” gave to a child.
Small acts of kindness in the minds of the receivers are seldom thought of as small, and are seldom forgotten.
 
Today, thank you Vicky for remembering our grandson with your act of kindness. Thank you for the “goodie bag” of Japanese gifts you brought back to him; and for having his name written in Japanese. He was excited; maybe like receiving a new ball glove!

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September 18, 2014
Keep on,
Larry Adamson   

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Let’s Buy Him Out

September 26, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

This is one of those stories that I don’t know if it really happened but it should have. I have been a part of some churches where you would have loved for some member like this to confront Ole John with such a question.

Just some thoughts:
 
LET’S BUY HIM OUT

Sadly many of us have found ourselves in this situation; in a business, school, or perhaps a church setting.

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Ole John was a member of a church and it seemed anytime the church folks wanted to do something, Ole John was against it. He was always there to put a damper on the idea. Ideas would be discussed, folks would get all excited and plans laid, then John would always say, “I’ve been a member of this church for a long time, I have put money into this church and I don’t think we should do this.” Thus the idea and the plans would be dropped, nothing would happen.
One day in a gathering of this congregation plans were being discussed about a matter when Ole John again rose up with his too often statement; “I’ve been a member of this church for a long time, have put a lot of money into this church and I don’t think we should do this.” This time a member in the back of the church stood up. “Mr. John how much money do you reckon you have put into this church?”  John answered, “Well I don’t really know, I guess I’d have to do some figuring.” This member then said to John, “Well, why don’t you go home, figure out how much money that would be and come back and tell us, cause I think it’s time we buy you out.”
 
While that is humorous to us in reading, sadly far too often that has been the case.  “Ole Johns” have held up many a good work and the efforts of others.  I know, I’ve been there.
 
Often some people just need to be “Bought out.”
 
March 4, 2011
Keep on,
Larry Adamson

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He Kept His Word

September 24, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

Just some thoughts:           
 
It may be costly at first, but generally doing the right thing sooner or later pays off.
 
I have a cd that I often play, especially on Sunday mornings as my wife and I make our way to church services. The cd is of old hymns done by one of my favorite female singers, Emmylou Harris. What really caught my attention the first time I heard the cd was the great harmony created by the other person singing with her. There was no other name with vocal credits other than hers on the cd, but I knew that voice, it was familiar.
 
A few months ago I had the good fortune to be on a tour bus traveling to a basketball game in Evansville, Indiana. A game between Evansville and Belmont University. I was sitting with the owner of that bus, and he and I had the opportunity to just sit and talk. I brought up the question of that cd and said to him, “That sure sounds like you singing and playing with Emmylou.” He smiled, “Interesting you should bring that up, no one has ever asked or noted that before. There’s quite a story behind that cd.”
 
He told me he had not been in Nashville very long when Emmylou Harris called to ask him if he would sing with her on an upcoming project she wanted to do. She told him she could not pay him as it was a trial project and the label had not even committed to the purchase of the material when done.
 
“At that time I was really down and out, I had no money and things were not going really well for me,” he said. Now this is where the story really gets interesting; he told her he would do the project with her. “I needed anything I could get, if nothing more than for exposure.” Two or three days before his session with Emmylou, his agent called and told him to be at another studio on this same day he was to be with her. Since the dates conflicted he told his agent he could not, as he had told Emmylou he would sing with her. His agent said, “You don’t want to miss this project take my word for it, be there, call Emmylou and bail out. This is a paying gig and I think maybe a pretty good one.”  I told my agent I would not do that, I was new in town and I was not going to get the reputation of telling someone I would do something and not show up. His agent said, “You’ll be sorry.” He kept the Emmylou date which paid nothing.  
 
The next few days passed and his agent called, “You missed the date of your life.” This session was for a commercial and it paid the person who did it $75,000 on the spot. He said “you can imagine my feelings, nothing paid compared to $75,000.” “But later I came to realize I was blessed, I have come to believe generally if you do the right thing and keep your word that in the end you will come out all right.”
 
I think my friend said it well.
Oh, the guy singing with Emmylou on that cd and my friend on the bus? That was Vince Gill.
 
January 3, 2010
Keep on,
Larry Adamson

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Vince and Emmy Lou headline “All For The Hall”

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The Danger of Early Success

September 21, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

Just some thoughts:  

THE DANGER OF EARLY SUCCESS

“Perhaps no man is as haunted as the one whom once stunned by instant success, for he lives thereafter with the illusion that tomorrow is bound to bring one more bolt of good fortune.”
I like NASCAR racing. I have always liked racing.  For seven years, I worked during the month of the race at the Indianapolis 500.  I grew up going to the sprint and midget races at the Vigo County Fairgrounds in my home town of Terre Haute, Indiana.  The second date with my wife was spent taking her to Sunday afternoon sprint-car races. Little clue did she have of the dust and dirt to come. One quick lap by the cars, and I can still see her face as the dust and dirt came over us. Over the years of my youth, I became acquainted with various drivers. In 1960, the Rookie of the Year at the 500 had been injured less than six weeks into the season. He was hospitalized at the local hospital and I would go late evenings to visit, read mail and run errands for him.
Before I retired from the United States Golf Association one of my biggest thrills was when one of the producers at NBC Sports called and asked, “How would you like to get in a car this coming Sunday at the NASCAR race?”  “Oh yeah, oh yeah!” On that morning, I was at the track early, signed away my life, put on a helmet, some racing gear and then was strapped into a car with NASCAR driver Wally Dallenbach.
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Wally gave it the gas and off we went. Coming out of the first turn, I realized Wally was gonna be for real when he told me, “Hold on.” Hold on I did. It was one those experiences of, don’t stop, but, hey I have had enough.” It was a great thrill. Later, I was given a videotape of the ride and from the audio you can hear me in the car. I am rather vocal. 
But there was something else that day that caught my attention. In the pits, as I was preparing to get in the car, I recognized him. My, he had aged, didn’t look like the same guy I remembered. I remember when he won many years ago, he was the youngest to ever win a NASCAR race, and he won it in his first race. First NASCAR race and he wins. You can imagine the media and all the hype. Everyone said, “This guy is going to be something.  He is headed for racing greatness.” Well, it never happened; he never again won a race in all his efforts.
 
Early success does not mean future success and early failure does not mean the failure of future success.

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November 18, 2010
Keep on,
Larry Adamson
If you look closely at the picture to the left you can see me climbing into the right side of the car…helmet on,etc. Let me tell you this was quite a thrill to be going 150 plus mph down a straight away headed into the turn. It was a great thrill.

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I Sure Hope He Doesn’t

September 18, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

Just some thoughts:
 
Recently I was in one of Nashville’s libraries of culture.

Oh well, you know, a honky tonk. Sittin’ there minding my own business. Cokes for two bucks and you tip the band once an hour. Listening to the music and watching the folks is pure culture at its best.
 
It’s a bit after 10 p.m., about the time all the college kids come out. I’d been sitting next to some folks from Boston, folks about my age. The space next to me was empty when in walks five or six young ladies.  They were young people about the age or maybe a bit younger than our oldest grandchild (twenty somethings?).  They asked if they could take those seats. Sure, we told them.  Now on the bandstand that night was one of my Nashville favorite’s, ole Harry Fontana. He and his band are cookin’ and the kids are all dancing.
 
This little gal in the group sits down next to me and says, “Hey, you come in here often?” “Yes.” “How about you” I ask. “Yea” we come in all the time, we really like Harry.” About this time a guy walks up to her and asks her to dance. Now he does look a bit seedy. With a bit of hesitation she accepts. They dance and I must say the guy can dance. When she finishes she comes back to her seat, passing me she says, “Never met him before, he ain’t no ten, but he can dance.”
 
As she sips her drink she asked me, “How old are you and why do you come in here?” I laughed and told here “I am more than old enough to be your grandfather.” “Well my grandfather is” and she tells me his age. “I still have your grandfather beat” I reply. “Oh my” her reaction. “Yea you are older than him.” Youth and truth they often are brutally so.
 
Now ole seedy reappears and once again asks her to dance. Back up they go for another dance. This time with a bit more enthusiasm. Again, they both are good dancers and enjoyable to watch. The dance is finished and she returns to her seat. Then she says a classic line to me. The line: “I sure hope he asks me to dance again, but I sure hope he doesn’t ask if he can take me home.”
 
In life there are some things we want from people and there are some things we don’t. To the young ladies credit I think she had this one figured out. In the words of the old 50s’ rock-n-roll song by the Drifters:


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“She may save the last dance for him
    but he can forget about takin’ her home.”
January 31, 2013
Keep on,
Larry Adamson

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Accessories

September 16, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

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Just some thoughts:

Accessories-
“A subordinate or supplementary item. Something non essential but desirable that contributes to an effect or result.  That is Webster’s definition.

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On occasion my wife will buy a new dress and upon bringing it home, she will put the dress on and then ask, “How does this look?” The other day she did such. She had laid the dress out on the bed and as I passed by it some other items caught my attention. Some items she had laying by the dress. I counted six additional items.  I believe they call those items accessories. Hum, let’s see there was a belt, earrings, bracelet, necklace, a scarf, and, of course, shoes. Who can forget the shoes? Oh my yes, shoes.

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“Ok, how does it look?” she asked as she came waltzing into the room. Being well trained, I flipped off the TV. From previous review times I have learned it is in my best interest to give this review “my undivided attention.” The dress I liked, my wife looked very pretty in it as she always does. But what I noticed was how much the accessories enhanced the “Featured” item. Of course the featured item was the dress. The belt was the same color as the necklace and earrings. They definitely matched the color of the dress and the shoes brought out the color of the dress. Everything matched; everything just made the dress look that much prettier. She looked good.
 
Accessories. You know that’s true with life and relationships; “Accessories,” just make the quality of one’s life and relationships so much better. They improve it. I hope we never think of them as non essentials. They are very essential.
 



April 9, 2012
Keep on,
Larry Adamson


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Why Do You Have A Business Card?

September 12, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

Just some thoughts:
 
Recently I had our fifteen year old granddaughter, Sloan, with me at my coffee place.
 
While there, I was talking with someone and in the exchange of conversation, I gave him a business card. I have cards printed with my name, address, email address and cell phone number.
 
When the party I had been talking with left, Sloan took a card. She looked at the card and smiled big, actually it was more like a laugh. I think she was trying to be polite, but it was not easy for her to do such. Then she asked a very interesting question. You know, sometimes one can ask a question that you don’t have a really good answer to. The question comes at you and you go into your mind looking for something to grab hold and give back a reasonable answer. Her question was:
 
“Pop pop, why in the world do you have a business card? You don’t have a business and for sure, you don’t work.”
 
Ouch.
 
You know sometimes young people can ask questions of those who are older and sometimes we really don’t have a good answer for them.
 
Which, by the way, that can apply to a lot of areas of life when the young asks the old.

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July 10, 2013
Keep on,
Larry Adamson

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A Kiss-Young Love

September 10, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

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Just some thoughts:
 
                                    A Kiss—Young Love
 
Today I was out in my old (1962) corvette, top down, just toolin’ around.
 
I had Johnny Rivers “Live at the Whiskey A-Go-Go” playing on my car cassette player. Yes I said cassette. They came right after the 8 track players. Which by the way is one of the greatest bits of live music you will ever find.  I-Pod that one for yourself. Takes me back to my younger days.
 
I pulled up to this stop light. Pulling up right behind me I noticed was a young guy and girl. They appeared to me to be in late teens, maybe twenty or so. We waited a while on the light. As I looked in my rearview mirror I saw the two of them sorta lean toward each other and then he gave her a “nice long soft kiss.” (When I told my wife this story she ask “how do you know it was a soft kiss?”–I told her take it from me…I’m not dead…(yet)… I know what a soft kiss is).
 
As I looked in the rearview mirror I had to smile to myself. As they separated they looked up.  I had my top down, I turned in my seat and I gave them a two thumbs up gesture. The fella, he laughed, and taking both hands from the wheel he gave me two thumbs up in return. She smiled big and kinda put her hand up to her face, like “oh my I’m so embarrassed.” (Bet she really wasn’t.)
 
The light changed and off both of us went. As I drove on I got to thinking to myself why is it that far too often we associate such a gesture as something only for “young love?”
 
Tomorrow night my wife and are meeting another couple out for dinner and we are drivin’ my old Corvette.  Now I’m smiling. Ok you are ahead me aren’t you?
 
You know what? You guessed it.  I hope on the way we get stopped at a light. If we do you know what I’m gonna do?….Oh you know. In fact, if the first light we come to is not red I may just keep drivin’ till I find one that is………….
 
August 8, 2011
Keep on,
Larry Adamson

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They Say The First Cut Is The Deepest

September 9, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

Just some thoughts:
 
The other day I was playing a cd of some Rod Stewart songs. In past times Stewart has done some great work with the old standards. But he also had a very successful cut on the Cat Stevens song, “The First Cut Is the Deepest.” The song, the lyrics have to do with the first love in a girl or boys life.
 
You ever think about all the songs that have been written about first relationships. Sinatra did a classic on “I’ll Never Love Again.” By way there is great history on how that song came to be written. I’ll save that for a later time.
 
The other day I saw Sonny James. Sonny was a very successful singer, songwriter, performer and member of the Country Music Hall of Fame.  Now he’s retired and living here in Nashville. A very nice and well respected man. His first hit was a song made popular in the mid-1950s’ called “Young Love.”
 
 In the early 1970s’ I was standing in a church foyer waiting for service to begin and who should walk in but Sonny James. No one else recognized him. When the service was over I was standing near the exit. I approached Sonny as he was leaving and said to him, “I’ll see you at the show this afternoon.”  Shaking my hand he replied, “You going to the show?” “Yes,” I replied. “Do you know the location where the show is scheduled?” I told him I did and then he asks, “Would you want to go with me now?” To make a long story short, I did.  I spent about few hours with him, some of that time the two of us sitting and talking in his dressing room. He could not have been nicer.  Also, on the bill that afternoon was Johnny Paycheck, Mel Tillis and Barbara Mandrel. Quite a show and a day I will never forget.

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Larry Adamson with Sonny James

They say for every boy and girl in the whole world
There’s only one love and I know I’ve found mine.
The other day my wife and I were talking about the early days of dating. She having grown up in “town” and me in a rural setting. Names came to both of us and I asked her “would you like to see any of those people you once dated?” “Yes” she replied. “Especially” and she named him. “I would like to see how they are and how life has been for them.” “You,” she asked me. “Yes, yes, I would also.
“Who is to say? What is love? Perhaps for a time I loved her; perhaps in a way I love her still. Perhaps when a man has held a woman in his arms, there is a little of her with him forever.”
    
(Louie L’Amour)
I guess the question might be kinda like ol’ George Strait used to sing “Does Ft.Worth Ever Cross Your Mind?”
 
I guess the question might be………… do we ever cross their mind?

July 5, 2013
Keep on
Larry Adamson

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Buddy Holly

September 5, 2014 By Larry Adamson Leave a Comment

This Sunday September 7th  is Buddy Holly’s birthday. Had he lived he would be 78 years old. For me those great rock-n’-rollers never get old and they certainly don’t die. Check out the cassette player in my 65′ Corvette right now and Holly will be playing sometime during that drive.  No, they don’t age. Below is something I wrote on Sept 7, 2011.

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Taken on my trip to Clear Lake, IA

Just some thoughts:

BUDDY HOLLY
 
If he was still living today Buddy Holly would be 75 years old. He was born September 7, 1936.
 
I remember it like it was yesterday, February 3, 1959. I was a junior in high school and for some unknown reason our basketball coach cut basketball practice short that day, releasing the mighty Pimento Peppers to the public early that afternoon. We probably had “peeked” and he could do nothing further for our upcoming Friday night battle with the Prairie Creek Gophers.
 
As I walked into my bedroom that late afternoon, I turned on the little Philco radio sitting on the stand next to my bed only to hear the report of the death of three “rock-n-rollers,” Ritchie Valens, J.P. Richardson (The Big Bopper) and Buddy Holly. All three along with the twenty-one year old pilot, Roger Peterson, lost their lives in a small plane crash after doing a show in Clear Lake, Iowa. Holly was just twenty-two at the time. He has had a lasting effect on music, especially the early British invasion – The Stones, The Beatles, etc. For us kids Holly was like no other teen music person. He was not particularly good looking. In fact he appeared a bit nerdy with his black horn rimmed glasses. He even wore white socks when on stage. But when his music started, that “nerd” tag quickly disappeared for us. He and his group, the Crickets, came out of Lubbock, Texas. One fella even wrote a song about Holly’s passing and told us that this was “The day the music died.” 


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Click on the picture for history on the Surf Ballroom

Still to this day, over fifty years later, every year in Clear Lake, Iowa they have a three day rock n roll festival.  It takes place at the Surf Ballroom in memory and tribute to that last show the three did. Not long ago I drove from my home in Tennessee to the festival in Iowa, having no idea what to expect. One, I did not expect the weather I experienced, arriving to eighteen inches of snow and minus seventeen below. Even I thought, “One has to be a bit crazy to do this.” Well, about three thousand crazy folks and I would show up each night (late into the night-early into the morning) to take in the sights and sounds from that era. It was great. Speaking of crazy, while there I even went out to the cornfield of Elsie and Albert Juhl’s farm where the crash of the plane is marked with a small monument. Yes, yes I did.
 
I was almost 17 years old when Holly died and now I’m almost 70. On Monday night, September 12th, I will be standing in front of a stage at a ballroom in Green Bay, Wisconsin; and yeah, it will be like going back to another 1957 four day rock n roll festival. At 9:45 p.m. I will see the “Original” Crickets on stage; and who knows, maybe ole Peggy Sue will even be there…
Raining In My Heart

The sun is out, the sky is blue

There’s not a cloud to spoil the view

But it’s raining, raining in my heart

The weather man says clear today

He doesn’t know you’ve gone away

And it’s raining, raining in my heart
-Buddy Holly

I guess maybe some of us just never grow up.  
 
September 7, 2011
Keep on,
Larry Adamson

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Larry Adamson was raised in Indiana.  After teaching and coaching for several years he worked as Director of Championships at the United States Golf Association in NJ.  He’s retired, living just outside Nashville,TN.  He blogs about his favorite things: sports, music, old cars, and the good ole days.




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